Human Design - 'do without doing and the doing gets done'
Communing, relating from self love and mutual respect
How do we know this is the case? We experiment with making decisions from strategy and authority. That is the doorway to relieving the mind of thinking it has to run the life. It is a journey into trusting life.
Correct decision making as yourself is the foundation for being more comfortable in the life. That experiment sets in motion a self cleaning loop that allows us to anchor in the natural way life unfolds, while simultaneously bringing to the surface what is called the not-self thinking patterns so that they can be seen for the mistaken mental strategizing that they are.
Growing pains are a part of the deconditioning process. It is a quality of pain that needs to be distinguished from the pain of living with 7 centered conditioning. NINE CENTERED PAIN is the pain of waking up, like when you get pins and needles as the circulation comes back. It's also the sweet pain of connecting with how it hurts to not love your uniqueness. SEVEN CENTERED PAIN is the pain of holding life together through the mind. It is the of stoicism, the pain of comparison, the pain that comes from how mental decision making meets resistance. (to understand the terminology, 7 and 9 centered, please see the section headed ‘Spirituality' and the section on Evolution of Consciousness’)
The Deconditioning Process
Secondly that they receive a constant mirroring from those around, that they can access their own inner authority and decision making strategy. Even a baby can be held with the energy that expresses respect for it’s type of design (e.g. a Generator baby can be offered the nipple as something to respond to, rather than having it placed in their mouth). Of course they need a certain structuring by adults, and still it is the respect for the nature of their mechanics that will give them a fundamental grounding in themselves. That life spark can then stay alive and not be overwhelmed by the mental training to use the mind to run the life.
Respecting the Spirit
As adults, we are the product of that 7 centered conditioning, we inevitably, if inadvertently model the reliance on mental survival strategies to a young mind regardless of how loving the home environment. The outcome is a subtle negation of the integrity within a child to trust their inner authority and the very spirit of their nature to be able to find their way from an inner knowing.
Treating a child according to their nature, in this frame, means that knowing the mechanics of their type will be at the forefront of how they are honored as a being. Also that their specific inner authority is always referenced to them as the only thing they need for navigating in life with each decision. This is the antidote to being attracted to using the mind for decision making.
Loving the Not-Self
It is all part of the deconditioning process to see how the mind has been trained to run the life. From this we all have this 7 centered conditioning that encouraged us from a very young age to structure a ‘persona’ with which to meet the world. It runs deep in our psyche to do that with our minds. When you observe the ‘not self’ without judgment, it’s illusory nature becomes evident and the true self comes into the foreground.
Loving the Self is the natural outcome of living a 9 Centered life. The freedom of spirit is in the awareness of passenger consciousness.
Tools Human Design has an abundant tool bag of mechanical information that can support the deconditioning process in various ways depending on what attracts a person (or not) at any given stage in their journey. As a Projector I’ve studied most of them and this website lays out various possibilities.